Trouble in Your Family?

Problem: Someone in my family is turning everyone against me.


My Answer:
There is nothing you can do. This person is manipulative, and everyone in the family knows it. I was once a part of a family like this. The funny thing is, my ex married a woman 'exactly' like they said I was - and now he is stuck. No divorce this time without her parents taking him for everything.

The thing is, you have an enemy in the house. No one wants to hear the arguments because that will end the game.

Just stay away from them for a while. It took me 3 years. Tell them in writing, with you and your husband's signature, that you will be back when you can visit without being yelled at, or hearing any gossip from the sister.

The most important. You must never talk to this woman, not on the phone, not at family gatherings not ever. The family must know that under no circumstances will you be alone with her - talk to her - be in the same room with her. This way, when she says you did something/said something/ etc...they know she is lying.

Now, here is how you do it. You come across as 'I am aware that people are saying I am causing problems. I do not want to be the trouble maker so MY HUSBAND and I have decided to fix the problem by doing the following...."

You should have your children with you. There is the possibility that you do things that hit this person’s emotional triggers. You may not know that they have triggers. Your children may be able to help shed some light. But, including your children also helps empower them and make them part of your family.